Why Online Communities Rock

Me and my Spiral buddy Sarah on the rail at a NIN show in Toronto 2008. (That’s not sweat, BTW. We waited in a downpour for at least an hour before they let us into the arena.)

 

A lot of people are surprised when they find out I’m a Nine Inch Nails fan. I get that weird, surprised look, usually accompanied by a response like, “Really? You don’t look like one…” (Of course, this only makes me wonder what I’m supposed to look like. Black hair, perhaps? Goth makeup? Emo expression? Photobucket )

 

My Online Community Experience

 

Back in the day, I joined an online forum called The Spiral, which was the official NIN fanclub at the time. At first, I hung back and lurked, trying to get a feel for the place. There were about 40,000 plus members from all over the world, so there were lots of ‘rooms’ and threads to check out. Eventually, I got up the courage to post in the thread where I felt the most comfortable.

 

Over the next few years, I logged on to The Spiral regularly, and became friends with a group of girls who were regulars in that thread. At first, we talked mostly about NIN, but after spending so much time together, our topics drifted to other things, and we got to know one another as more than just fans of the band. We were there to support one another or cheer each other on through the bumps that life threw our way. (We also laughed a lot. Photobucket )

 

Eventually, as the band went on tour again, we began to hatch plots to meet up at a show. It seemed totally normal to me, but I got some strange looks when I mentioned to people I was going to the States to meet some friends I had met online for a NIN concert… (And of course, the first one I went to was in Detroit, and I took the Greyhound there by myself just after the whole decapitation incident, which probably didn’t help.)

 

As it turned out, none of my online friends were serial killers, and we had an awesome time.* In fact, I went down for another NIN show a few years later in Charlotte to meet some more friends who couldn’t make it to Detroit. When The Spiral was eventually taken down, we kept in touch, and are still friends on Facebook.

 

*Caveat: If you don’t know your online friends that well, or have reason to suspect they might be serial killers, obviously I don’t recommend arranging a meet-up. Either way, be smart and safe at all times. Photobucket

 

Why connecting online works:

 

You can make a real connection with other people who share your passions/interests.

 

Once you find common ground with a topic you’re both excited about, you can branch out from there. (Don’t get me wrong, you will still come across people who share your passion that you don’t end up clicking with, but chances are that won’t be everyone you meet.)

 

You can be as social or introverted as you want.

 

I’m a major introvert. I really liked that I could just not log on when I wasn’t feeling sociable. Other people would be logged in all the time, which also works since you have people from all different time zones hanging out and wanting to chat.

 

 

You can choose who you want to be.

 

You get to design your online personality, usually with an avatar, description, etc. Of course, it’s better if your online personality reflects your real life personality, but your online persona might be amplified in some way.

 

My Spiral handle was katana. I was the crazy girl who made weird Photoshop images of the band and awesome animated gifs. Being katana felt different from being Jacqui. I felt both more outrageous and confident at the same time. Some people still call me ‘kat’ even now, which is totally cool because it brings back that mindset.

 

Anyway, that’s my ramble on making authentic online connections.

What has your experience been like? How have you made authentic connections online?

 

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  • Sarah says:

    That show was soooooo much fun!! Including the downpour. I really miss our evening chats. It really was great fun, and a nice way to unwind at the end of the day. But, I still have all you great girls as friends!! That will not change.

    November 7, 2012 at 9:40 am
    • Jacquelyn says:

      LOL, I was so tired and soaked through from the rain, but that was probably my best concert experience ever! Right up front and center, in the middle of all the action. (And then Trent pointed the camera right at us and we were up on the jumbotron! :D) I’m so glad I met all you crazy ladies.

      November 7, 2012 at 7:32 pm
  • James Garcia Jr says:

    Hi, Jacqui. NIN, huh? Very cool! So you’ve got a bit of an edge, huh? *grins* I also give you your props for being down on that rail. The last time I was that close to the action, Tommy Lee’s base drum felt like it was breaking my ribs at the Motley Crue show! That was a long time ago, but I haven’t forgotten. I have been close since then, but John Mayer is not quite the same…
    Yes, as an Indie writer, I totally lean on the writer community. Without wonderful friends like you, I don’t know what I would do, or how I would get through the highs and lows. Thanks for sharing and sorry I haven’t been by of late.
    Rock on, my friend!

    -Jimmy

    November 8, 2012 at 7:15 pm
    • Jacquelyn says:

      Yeah, I haven’t been around online much lately either. Hope things are going well in your neck of the woods! Whether it’s Motley Crue or John Mayer, there really isn’t anything like a good live concert experience, where you feel totally connected with the band and the fans around you…

      I can’t even imagine going indie without all the great people online writing helpful posts, sharing their experiences, and offering their support. Good to hear from you. :)

      November 8, 2012 at 8:48 pm

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